It’s come to my attention that people from my home town have seen my pics online and have started spreading vicious rumors about my sisters because of my transition.
Let me set the record straight.. many people at my mum’s work and church have never met me and up until recently had no idea that my mum has a son called “Coco”.. why? well when I was a teenager living at home my parents were very much ashamed of the fact that their son (me) was feminine and obviously a transgender teen.
When people visited my mum’s home I was told to go to my room (to hide). My photographs were never on display at my mum’s home in fear that people might ask about me. I guess because of the way my parents and sisters treated me I developed a very low self esteem, I felt worthless and so it comes as no surprise I was plagued with depression. The depression was hard to deal with and so it was inevitable feeling loss, unwanted and confused . I felt that my life was of no value and attempted suicide twice.
Fortunately, I was blessed with an opportunity to go and work abroad. When I moved to the UK I got a start over, I could start living my life without the negative emotional and physical abuse I endured at home. No longer were the people around me telling me it was wrong to live the way I felt naturally.
A new country and new environment meant I could surround myself with people who were a source of light on my journey in life. I finally found acceptance within myself, I started to love myself for all its flaws and soon I started blossoming into the beautiful transgender woman I am today.
Today,I am considered South Africa’s most beautiful transgender female. I have lost count of how many men and woman stop me in the streets to compliment on my looks. Luckily I have not allowed it to go to my head, not vain at all. Yes, I am Coco a strong liberate individual who’s mission in life is to inspire people to become all that they can be. I never chose to become a woman, that came naturally once I learned to tuned out the negative noise.. what I did choose is to LIVE AN AUTHENTIC VERSION OF WHO I AM.
So to those of you who are indifferent to how I live my life… YOUR ACCEPTANCE IS NOT REQUIRED NOR DESIRED.
Personally I believe that if you are unable to find peace with other people’s choices then my dear you obviously have not found peace within yourself.
So if you’r a hater I urge you to find peace for only then will you be able to be a positive light on the journey of others.
Much love and peace.